20+ Incredibly Powerful Ways Your Husband can Support You During Birth
You made this baby as a team, now it’s time to birth this baby as a team. One of my favorite things about birth is that it provides partners to rebirth their relationship and come together in a new and profound way. Any partner who is involved with helping his wife birth a baby will be absolutely stunned by her power and grace. To have your husband support you through birth can be extremely healing and even has the capability to change the trajectory of some relationships.
1. Being prepared with pain management techniques and reminding you what to do if you get overwhelmed. 2. Helping you recognize what stage of labor you are in and what is coming next. 3. Acting as your gatekeeper, nobody talks to you without going through him, keeping away all bad vibes and unnecessary questions away from you so you are free to stay focused on the birth. 4. Reminding you to drink water after every contraction. 5. Being prepared with honey sticks or other honey gel packs if you are getting worn out. 6. Reminding you of the plan you made and helping you stick to it. 7. 30 seconds into a contraction whispering “peak” so you know you’re almost done. 8. Putting a cold cloth on your forehead between pushing contractions or a warm compress on your back for back labor.
Your husband can help you as a cheerleader by:
1. Being prepared with words of affirmation to encourage you in your moments of doubt. 2. Having a yummy treat, sparking cider or other momento to celebrate your win after the birth. 3. Being ready with counter pressure during contractions. 4. Holding you in a slow dance and support you during contractions. 5. Holding eye contact during intense contractions.
Your husband can help you as a witness by:
1. Walking with you if you need a change of scenery. Try walking with your hands behind your head as runners do between contractions. This will help open your hips and allow baby to move through your birth canal. Then during a contraction, put your arms around your husbands neck and lean up against him. Let his presence and closeness comfort you. 2. Being there, holding space for you to do your thing. 3. Telling jokes or stories to take your mind off pain. 4. Taking pictures you remember this day forever. 5. Writing you a letter of encouragement that you can hold in your heart if speaking isn’t his strong suit. 6. Giving you the space you need while remaining available . 7. Breathing with you slowly if you’re speeding up or tensing up during contractions. 8. Listening to instructions from you and doing without asking for a reason. 9. Being a calm and confident presence is sometimes all you will need from him.
During labor, most moms will need their partner to rotate between all 3 of these different roles. Make sure to ask your partner how they want to be involved and have a discussion about what you expect from them. Their is nothing more disappointing than having unmet expectations from your partner during birth. Hiring a doula or other support person may be helpful if your husband doesn’t really know about birth. The doula can help your husband do and say the right things if he is not confident in all these roles from the beginning as well. Recognize this is a journey for him as well.