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20+ Incredibly Powerful Ways Your Husband can Support You During Birth

You made this baby as a team, now it’s time to birth this baby as a team. One of my favorite things about birth is that it provides partners to rebirth their relationship and come together in a new and profound way. Any partner who is involved with helping his wife birth a baby will be absolutely stunned by her power and grace. To have your husband support you through birth can be extremely healing and even has the capability to change the trajectory of some relationships. 

I am committed to helping women have birth experience that stay with them as profound experiences that are the BEST experience of your life. If you and your partner are in different places about the birth or if you need help learning pain management techniques he can help you with please check out my class Pregnancy within the Lotus. You will rise like a phoenix to your strongest self and your relationship will grow because of it.

No one says it better than Dwayne Johnson after the arrival of his daughter.

the rock


Skin to skin. Our mana. Blessed and proud to bring another strong girl into this world. Tiana Gia Johnson came into this world like a force of nature and Mama @laurenhashianofficial labored and delivered like a true rockstar. I was raised and surrounded by strong, loving women all my life, but after participating in baby Tia’s delivery, it’s hard to express the new level of love, respect and admiration I have for @laurenhashianofficial and all mamas and women out there. Word to the wise gentlemen, it’s critical to be by your lady’s head when she’s delivering, being as supportive as you can.. holding hands, holding legs, whatever you can do. But, if you really want to understand the single most powerful and primal moment life will ever offer – watch your child being born. Its a life changer and the respect and admiration you have for a woman, will forever be boundless. And to my third and youngest daughter, Tiana Gia – like I did when your two older sisters Simone Alexandra and Jasmine Lia were born, you have my word, I’ll love, protect, guide and make ya laugh for the rest of my life. Your crazy dad has many responsibilities and wears many hats in this big ol’ world, but being your dad will always be the one I’m most proud to wear. Oh and one more thing.. you’re gonna love rollin’ in daddy’s pick up truck. #TianaGiaJohnson #3rdDaughter #BlessesAndGratefulMan #ImInTROUBLE

20+ ways your husband can support you in labor

Your husband can support you as a coach by:

1. Being prepared with pain management techniques and reminding you what to do if you get overwhelmed.
2. Helping you recognize what stage of labor you are in and what is coming next.
3. Acting as your gatekeeper,  nobody talks to you without going through him, keeping away all bad vibes and unnecessary questions away from you so you are free to stay focused on the birth.
4. Reminding you to drink water after every contraction.
5. Being prepared with honey sticks or other honey gel packs if you are getting worn out.
6. Reminding you of the plan you made and helping you stick to it.  
7. 30 seconds into a contraction whispering “peak” so you know you’re almost done.
8. Putting a cold cloth on your forehead between pushing contractions or a warm compress on your back for back labor.  

Your husband can help you as a cheerleader by:

1. Being prepared with words of affirmation to encourage you in your moments of doubt. 
2. Having a yummy treat, sparking cider or other momento to celebrate your win after the birth.
3. Being ready with counter pressure during contractions.
4. Holding you in a slow dance and support you during contractions.
5. Holding  eye contact during intense contractions.

Your husband can help you as a witness by:

1. Walking with you if you need a change of scenery. Try walking with your hands behind your head as runners do between contractions. This will help open your hips and allow baby to move through your birth canal. Then during a contraction, put your arms around your husbands neck and lean up against him. Let his presence and closeness comfort you. 
2. Being there,  holding space for you to do your thing.
3. Telling jokes or stories to take your mind off pain.
4. Taking pictures you remember this day forever.
5. Writing you a letter of encouragement that you can hold in your heart if speaking isn’t his strong suit.
6.  Giving you the space you need while remaining available .
7. Breathing with you slowly if you’re speeding up or tensing up during contractions.
8. Listening to instructions from you and doing without asking for a reason.
9. Being a calm and confident presence is sometimes all you will need from him.

During labor, most moms will need their partner to rotate between all 3 of these different roles. Make sure to ask your partner how they want to be involved and have a discussion about what you expect from them. Their is nothing more disappointing than having unmet expectations from your partner during birth. Hiring a doula or other support person may be helpful if your husband doesn’t really know about birth. The doula can help your husband do and say the right things if he is not confident in all these roles from the beginning as well. Recognize this is a journey for him as well.  


If you would like to prepare as a couple, please use week 5 of Pregnancy within the Lotus. This class helps women step into the center of their birth and craft an experience that feels extraordinarily fulfilling at every level. Delving into partner work is one of the most rewarding weeks of all.


20+ incredibly powerful ways your husband can support you in labor.

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